Don't rationalize, just feel.

I read the chapter on relationships because I'm a dysfunctional teen who grew up on Cinderella and the ideals that revolve around 2.3 kids, a white picket fence, and a golden retriever. This entire book is about how to change or sustain a good functioning life. The chapter on relationships was interesting because I think, above all else, love is all that matters in the world we live in. A long time ago relationships didn't matter as much as they do now. people married people and had children end of story. Now a days people get married and divorced like its nothing. Seeing that makes me believe in love as a more fragile thing than it ever was. It can be created and destroyed over and over again according to our social norms so I've always been confused as to who what when where and how I'll find my one and only, or if I'll find a few of those. Basically, I'm confused to the point that the intro of this blog might now even make sense to most. The bottom line is I could use a little help in the relationship department so that chapter was most appealing right off the bat. It talked about how fixed mindset people want revenge and expect magic while growth mindset people move on. Identifying as a fixed mindset person I believe this is true, I do hold grudges more often than I'd like. As for the magic part I don't see that as a negative characteristic. I think magic gives people hope and hope keeps some of us moving forward. Fixed mindsets are seen as a negative thing but believing in magic isn't bad it isn't wrong, maybe taken to an extreme but believing that someday my life will be like a Taylor Swift song is lovely in my opinion. You might say I'm blissfully ignorant but I like to think of it as optimistic, I know I wont graduate college by a miracle, I know magic wont give me a great job I love, but tell me why exactly I cant walk into a room and see my soul mate and just know deep down inside that they're the one. That doesn't sound so ridiculous to me, in fact that sounds beautiful and why can't love be beautiful magic? If only the book addressed that.